Mental health and wellbeing expert Dr Pooky Knightsmith advises teachers and school staff on what not to do if they are worried that a child is self-harming or if a student discloses to them

School staff often ask me what they should and shouldn’t say if a pupil talks to them about their self-harm. There is often a concern that in saying or doing the wrong thing we might make things worse. As such, I have listed some common pitfalls to avoid and outlined some more positive approaches.

Many young people don’t open up about their self-harming behaviours because they’re worried that they will be judged as crazy or attention-seeking. This fear of judgement can act as a huge barrier to help-seeking and problem-sharing and being met with a judgemental attitude will result in the conversation being cut short. Instead, give the pupil the opportunity to explain their thoughts, feelings and behaviours while you listen without assumptions or judgement.

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